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Not Cool.
Now that I’ve had time to reflect, I have decided that it is NOT COOL that Ex introduced me to Serious Girlfriend. It was mean and a continuation of his abuse. He did it to make me feel shitty. To make...
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Not for me
As always, Louisa is making me think. In her latest post, she writes about her fear of abandonment: A paradigm of monogamy would have shielded me from abandonment with ‘rules’ that constructed the...
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Not Focusing on the White Picket Fence
New Guy and I met for lunch and had a long conversation about monogamy and polyamory. I told him my position with more certainty and emphasis. He told me that he wants me to be happy, even if that...
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Trust
I have never trusted a partner. Well, I probably trusted my first high school boyfriend, who broke up with me after three months and shattered my heart into a kabillion tiny pieces, but I’m not sure...
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Communicating
When I was married and my husband and I fought, I would sometimes feel high after I had said my piece. I was high on open communication. I felt like I’d finally said something that would get through to...
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Romantic Projections (aka, the Purpose of New Guy)
Another lightbulb has gone off for me. I am forever changed. This book is insane. Insane, I tell you. It was given to me by New Guy’s ex-wife, who I will from here on call “The Artist.” The Artist...
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What happened with the email!
When a friend commented on one of my last posts, I realized I forgot to reflect on New Guy’s response to the email I sent him while he was abroad. I’m actually glad I forgot, though, because the topic...
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Sacrifice
image source A couple of months ago, I told New Guy that non-monogamy “is okay until it isn’t.” That this sort of relationship is not ideal for me, and not what I want, but it’s okay for now. I thought...
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The official end of New Guy
A lot has gone on in the past week, especially yesterday. I need to focus on New Guy right now, but I also need to come back to Mediation/custody/Ex soon also. Last week in therapy I had a realization...
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Salesmen have lots of Strings. Lots of them.
The universe did a strange thing a few days after things ended with New Guy. It sent me somebody else, just to make sure I got the message. As a bit of a background, I know this guy from high school....
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